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It’s been a whirlwind of activity and sleep deprivation these past few days. I took the day off from work on Monday because I’d barely slept and was desperate to catch up. By the time Monday evening rolled around, it was easy to want to stay home and sleep. But Monday nights I meet up with a handful of guys from church and hang. I chose to go because we normally call or email in advance if we’re not going to make it.

4 responses to “The Power of Your Story and Simple Choices to Participate”

  1. Hi Daniel,

    You know I respect your faith, and you know that I am not a religious person myself. In that context, I want to share my initial thoughts to your story.

    I have had people in my life, in my closest family who have done me wrong in my childhood resulting in me fleeing home at age 18, and trying to make my way alone in the world. Feeling abandoned by the people who were supposed to love me and believe in me. I wasn't mature enough for life as an independent adult, and I got hurt many times because I so desperately seeked the love I was missing. For six years I felt sorrow and anger, much like your two friends have felt I'm sure. Finally, I came to realise that the persons who had failed me could never undo their failure. Maybe they didn't even have the capacity to admit to their wrongdoing. I then had the choice to keep my sorrow and anger like a stone in my heart, or I could choose to forgive. I chose the latter, and it felt like I was free to be the person I really want to be.
    My question for you is then…. why do you think it is God who gives people the strength to forgive, grow and choose happiness over grief and hate? In my mind, it is a gift we all have as human beings if we just allow ourselves to be true to our feelings and our ambitions for a happy life.

    With love

  2. Wow, Signe, you've asked a really good question. It's 24 hours later, and I'm still asking myself what my answer is.

    I have to agree with you that forgiveness is possible without being a Christian. Jesus was asked by his disciples, “How many times should I forgive my brother who has sinned against me? Up to seven times?”

    That statement alone proves that forgiveness was already part of a culture before Christ died on the cross.

    I'm going to ponder your question some more. I never forgave anyone for anything until after I believed in Jesus and accepted Him as my savior (age 18). I have no personal experience of forgiveness beforehand.

  3. I've been thinking about this too, and the one primary difference between
    forgiveness as a believer and as an unbeliever is healing. We can choose to
    no longer hold an offense against someone by an act of your will, but that
    does not mean we are healed of the pain. We will still be sensitive in some
    ways that make us vulnerable.

    This happens all the time, when someone says something that really offends
    us. It's not that what they said was so offensive, it's that what they said
    and how they said it reminds us of a deeper pain earlier in our lives. We
    respond as though responding to that initial offense, which makes us seem a
    little out of control emotionally.

    I know that God brings healing to His people through Jesus. And when I
    forgive someone, I also allow God to heal my heart. Once He's healed me from
    that hurt, I have no weakness or vulnerability in that area. I still have a
    memory of the event, but there is no pain associated with that memory.

    I look at what Jesus read as His mission statement when He walked the earth
    as a man: ” The Spirit of the Lord is on me, because he has anointed me to
    preach good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the
    prisoners and recovery of sight for the blind, to release the oppressed, to
    proclaim the year of the Lord's favor.” – Luke 4:18-19

  4. My boyfriend who is young and wise, had a comment about this subject, which I think might be right, and could potentially bridge our two diffent ways of life and faith. Maybe, some people find it hard to tap into their feelings and choose a happy life. It took me six years before I felt like I had some control over my feelings, and I'm a pretty open person, so I can easily imagine how more guarded, damaged people need more time/help. Religion, faith, God, Jesus can be a starting point to being honest and emotional, and through that, people be saved.

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