I opened my next card to discover that we were on our way to the movies!!!! We went to see Deja Vu, one of the films I’ve been wanting to see most for months! The movie was great, and it was time for the next card! The opened card gave me directions to eat on Grapevine Highway. I followed the directions, trying to figure out which place we were going to. Turns out they built a new McAllisters Deli by the Hometown Starbucks!!!! That deli has been our favorite up in Edmond, Oklahoma for almost a year. Heather rocks!
Category: relationships
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3 Year Anniversary: Part 7
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3 Year Anniversary: Part 6
As we wrapped up our time at Target, I found a pair of sunglasses I had to have while Heather searched for earrings.
On to the next phase!!!
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3 Year Anniversary: Part 4
The party isn’t quite as exciting when she asks me to do a fashion show with all the shirts I tried on. I missed an opportunity for some fabulous poses. I’ve removed the pics because I hate the way they look.
We went back and forth from the men’s department to the women’s and back to the dressing room. Do any other guys find it slightly insulting that men get a tiny little portion of the store and women’s clothing takes up a warehouse?
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3 Year Anniversary: Part 2
Phase 1:
To begin the day, Heather prepared one of my favorite breakfast dishes from childhood. I showered and we then hopped into the car to see what we would see.
Phase 2:
I opened card number 2 to find a gift card for the two of us to spend at Target!!!! You can do pretty well with a good sized gift card at Target, believe me. We spent most of our time at Target looking at clothing and accessories. We planned on checking out some CDs, but never made it there. We had too much fun trying on clothes! Turns out that Heather has a thing for hats! Who knew?More on the way…
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3 Year Anniversary Celebration
Saturday the 27th was our wedding anniversary. The night before, Heather was locked up in our home office for hours, doing something related to our anniversary celebration. She wouldn’t give me any details, except that she had the whole day planned. It was a rare occasion to sit back and enjoy the anticipation of a surprise.
We woke up early on Saturday and watched an old favorite teen movie, Can’t Hardly Wait. Heather then presented me with my anniversary card. It is the card of all cards, for in it lay the day’s adventures and activities.
More photos to come…
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Digital Flaws
Heather and I had a wonderful anniversary. We took lots of pictures, and as I uploaded them to the laptop last night, I realized that digital cameras aren’t very forgiving. Let’s face it: they’re down right rude. They do not cover blemishes or forgive leftover crumbs. After seeing myself in these photos, I fear that I must hire an image consultant to redeem myself. Either that or a personal trainer.
A photo journal of our day is on the way. Looking back, I regret that I didn’t take pictures of the places we went, to serve as chapter headings. Oh well. Guess we’ll have to live with pictures of ourselves!
Honestly, Heather is a doll! I cannot believe my supreme luck at landing a hottie like her! This only leads me to wonder: what the heck was she thinking?!?!?!
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Our Three Year Anniversary
As of today, Heather and I have been married for 3 years. No amount of denial can shake the fact that I’m getting older. Not really… I’m not one of those people who has a problem with aging.
Heather is such a thoughtful woman. She spent hours working on a sneaky secret strategy for our anniversary. She planned the whole day, and I’ve been the helpless awestruck victim! She really went above and beyond this time. It’s 4:33pm on Saturday as I write this, and we are at home taking a break. We’ve been on the go since 10am.
It’s going to take several posts to cover the day (we’re photographing all of it), so check back in a few hours and you should see parts two and three with photos included.
This is so fun!
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Heather Is My Hero
I had a miserable day today. I couldn’t focus for anything. Want to know what ADD looks like? It looks like me, frantically scampering through my thoughts in vain attempts to reign in sanity, clarity, and self-control.
On the upside, my wife was a complete doll this evening. She knew I was frustrated and she went out of her way to make me feel supported and encouraged while I worked. I have this weird deal where I feel more calm and peaceful when she is near. So she came into the office and read a magazine while I worked. Just having her nearby helped to calm my thoughts and allowed me the opportunity to focus and get my work done.
Once upon a time, I thought it was cool to have psychological and emotional problems. These were slightly misrepresented in films where the dark, wounded figure seemed to be so poetic and beautiful. Now a problem is a problem. It’s not practical to wish for problems just to live a dramatic life.
Give me fully-functional parts any day over the jumbled mess I sometimes face. Any day. But until then, give me a wife who treats me like mine did today. She made it worth living.
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My Thoughts on the Righteous Man
For years, I worried about being a righteous man. I never measured up to the standards set by my church, my family, and my Bible. I constantly felt overwhelmed by all the ways a person should respond with kindness and love and selflessness. I failed miserably.
For a time, I stopped caring. I surrendered. I accepted the fact that I didn’t measure up, and I quit trying to. These days, I see things a little differently. I don’t try to be a man who is perfect at everything. Now, I try to be a man who excels at one thing. One thing is easier to manage than hundreds.
For me, that one thing is being a husband. I couldn’t have forseen it before marriage, but satisfying my wife is an fairly life-consuming task. I don’t mean to say that my wife is difficult to please. Far from it. Sometimes I think she is just grateful that I’m not a drunk or violent man. Sometimes I really think she must have set the bar fairly low to be so happy with me.
Then I realize that for all my faults, I provide her with one of the things her heart needs most, which is. wait for it. loving attention (sorry – the old Doogie Howser dude is getting to me on How I Met Your Mother). That’s right. I give her my attention. I’m not always the best listener; in fact, I really like to hear the sound of my own logic. But I give her the best of my time always. We spend lunch times together. We spend weekends together. I go with her to the grocery store. We curl up on the sofa and watch television together (except when it’s the Dallas Cowboys or Mavericks).
There are times when I have the opportunity to hang out with a friend or go out by myself. That’s fine. I enjoy it. But as we wrap up our third year of marriage, I am blessed to enjoy spending so much time with this incredible woman. The truth is that she is my best friend. I enjoy her company. It’s actually fun to hang out with her!
My goal in all of this is to establish within her a deep revelation of my love and desire for her. I want her to be confident in my affection. She will not “think” that I love her or “hope” that I love her. She will know it. She will know it more than she will know anything else.
That is my one thing. I may or may not be a righteous man in any other man’s eyes, but I believe that a loving, nurturing husband is a righteous man.
