I was just thinking about this today. We belong to a minority group of Americans who opted to not take the “cry it out” method of parenting. We’re also part of the ecological breastfeeding movement. And I’ve seen the zealous parents on both sides of the equation.
It’s funny to me that these two sides waste their time arguing. Ultimately, the argument for both sides is that their practices help rather than stunt the emotional growth of the child. There are some other debates around health, but I’m addressing the issue of growth and emotional/social development here.
I say it’s funny because neither side can prove their case until their children are grown and parenting children of their own. Only then can we successfully measure the growth and development of one child versus the next.
And by the time our children have children, our arguments will have been long forgotten. Not to mention useless. I find that in most cases, a person does not change their behavior or beliefs as the result of an argument.
Ultimately, converts are won over by sincerity, friendship, and love. Whoever loves the best wins the greatestg number of converts. I think this is why the Jehova’s Witnesses experience greater growth than some Christian denominations. They focus on community and loving their neighbors. That warm inclusion is more than most people ever get, and it’s offer too strong to resist.